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How to Tell If Your Relationship is Suffering Because ONE of You Is Codependent
Codependency sucks the life out the person who can't help but try to extract their own happiness by changing another person. If you believe you'd be happy IF your partner (or relative) would do what you believe is...
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Learn My Top Tips for Healing Past Trauma and Changing Your Life
So much content on trauma is about WHAT HAPPENED. It's true that acknowledging the past is important, but real healing happens when you can notice your CPTSD SYMPTOMS and use strategies to calm your trauma reactions...
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Working Harder Than Most Other People COULD Be Over-Functioning
Overfunctioning is a trauma reaction where a person does TOO much – too much work, too much managing, too much trying to compensate for other people being unsafe, unloving and unreliable. It’s a survival mechanism...
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If Others' Success Fills You With Pain, Here's What to Do
When you were never loved enough in the first place -- and then you witness someone else getting really, really loved – it can tear down all the defenses you’ve built up in order to cope with the painful absence of...
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These Five Phases Show You Where You've Healed CPTSD and What's Next
If you’re not making progress healing from the effects of a traumatic childhood, it’s very likely, that whatever you were told to do is not working for you.There's an old way the world sees trauma and treatment, and...
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Why It's So Hard to Tell When Someone Else Is The Problem (and When It's Just You)
If you were neglected, manipulated, or gaslighted as a child you may still be struggling to be sure if a hurtful situation is a) someone mistreating you or b) your imagination. Until you heal trauma-driven wounds to...
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Attachment Wounds Rob You Of The Feeling of “Home”
There’s a deep need in every one of us to have a parent who deeply loves us. Where THEY are, is where we derive the feeling of HOME. And sometimes, as we grow up and go out on our own, when times get rough - the love...
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How Abandonment Wounds Trick You Into Staying With People Who Mistreat You
If you grew up emotionally neglected, you may have learned to ignore and override clear information that someone is mistreating you. At first you feel hurt and angry when they do it; you try to set a boundary and pull...
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The Limerent Flip: Facing Rejection Becomes So Unbearable You Stay Obsessed
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Limerent obsession with someone you can't have can become more than harmless little fantasy -- especially if they give you signals that there's HOPE. Limerence is basically an addictive tendency to POUR your...
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People Neglected in Childhood Can't See BIG HOLES In New Relationships
Rather than creating a happy life, people with trauma from childhood wait for the ideal relationship to come along and MAKE them happy. You may catch yourself believing that if you could JUST find the right person, or...
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Signs You Weren't Listened to As a Child
Kids are supposed to learn how to 'be" in the world from their parents. If you were ignored, you had to figure things out by yourself using a child's logic. If you tend to go into a stress response when you try to...
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Hyper-Intense Reactions to Stress Damages Relationships; Here's What to Do
Abuse, neglect and other traumatic experiences from your past can cause nervous system changes that cause your emotions to come out stronger than other people's. Rage, panic, or passionate attachment to others can get...
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