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Why fantasy hurts your ability to form REAL relationships
Magical thinking is a symptom of trauma. It helped you when you were small to imagine a life that was safe and welcoming for you. But if the habit of distorted thinking around romantic relationships continues into...
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LIMERENCE: Major Losses Trigger Obsessive Love
Based on all the hundreds of letters I get – the background stories about abuse and neglect in childhood, and the present day struggles to form loving, committed relationships – it’s clear to me that limerence is the...
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Drama-Free Strategies to Keep Family Members From Ruining Your Day
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*** What do you do when you're forced to be face-to-face with the person who...
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Friendship Skills For People Who Didn't Learn This At Home
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If you grew up in a dysfunctional family (especially if your parents didn't...
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How to Heal Your Trauma-Driven Thinking So You Can Make Better Decisions
A history of abuse and neglect in childhood affects how you think, what you believe, and how you act. This is a major factor that explains why people with CPTSD seem to make self-sabotaging decisions, ruining...
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Why Traumatized People Struggle With Friendships (and How You Can Heal)
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It's common for people who grew up emotionally neglected or exposed to...
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Sometimes Your Strength is The Reason They Turn On You
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To avoid responsibility for their own actions, abusive parents sometimes...
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Emotional Dysregulation Ruins Even The Best Relationships
If you grew up neglected, chances are good that when you’re under stress, you get emotionally dysregulated -- your nervous system reacts to stressors with extra strong emotions. When most people would be hurt, you’re...
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Demoralization: How to Resuscitate The GOOD In You & Recover Faith In The Future
To be “Demoralized” means to be deflated of all that makes you strong – to have too many bad and discouraging things happen to you until you lose your mental clarity, and lose your drive to bring good into the world....
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Crisis-Stage Codependency: How You Know It's Happening
Codependency may feel like a personality quirk but it can grow much, much worse. Codependency can snowball into a crisis-level distortion of thinking that -- unless you heal -- drags down your life (and the lives of...
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Anxious Attachment Style: Overcome Your Urge to MERGE and CLING in Early Relationships
People neglected or abandoned in childhood often have an anxious attachment style in adulthood, growing frantic while dating a new person to extract security and connection, before they get to know the other person....
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Narcissistic Traits vs. 'REAL' Narcissism
Many people traumatized as children show TRAITS of narcissism. Part if this is learned from narcissistic parents, and part develops to compensate for trauma wounds. In this "best of" compilation I bring together my...
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