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Expecting New Partners to "Meet Your Needs" Will Push Them Away
People neglected and abused in childhood are prone to fantasize about the perfect person and perfect love. But this habit can separate you from the chance to have a real relationship with someone who loves you. The...
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Hiding Others' Abusive Acts Desensitizes You: That's What They Want
It's as if there is a veil of unconsciousness that prevents us from remembering or telling the truth about sexual abuse -- or acting to defend abused children when we know abuse is happening. In this video, I talk...
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Neglect in Your Childhood Trained You to Pretend You're OK
If your parents made it a problem that you needed their love and attention, you may have have internalized the belief that there's something wrong and dirty and shameful about you and your feelings. In families where...
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Feeling Manipulated & Discarded Is Your Sign to Get Away
When you didn’t get cared for properly when you were little, it’s hard to READ other people – to detect the difference between a friend and someone merely being friendly. So many of us NEED a friend so badly, there’s...
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"Fawning" Is A Trauma Response That Leaves You Vulnerable to BAD TREATMENT
Fawning is when you make yourself small, or act "nice" and like you're not hurt, as a way to cope with mistreatment. It's a fantasy that by being selfless, kind and helpful, you can make bad people be kind to you....
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When You Heal These Behaviors Everything Gets Better
Abuse and neglect in childhood may seem like the worst thing that's happened to you. But many people with CPTSD multiply the damage with a pattern of behaviors that keeps the trauma alive. Thankfully, healing is...
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Life FEELS Chaotic To People with Childhood PTSD, But Control Isn't The Answer
If you grew up with trauma, you are likely to have close relationships with both CONTROLLING people and OUT-OF-CONTROL people. Both cause problems, and both can drive you to have a overly-strong need to control...
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Your Attractiveness Grows When You Heal Your Unmet Childhood Needs
People whose partners have CPTSD often become confused about the meaning of "support." When should you tolerate yelling, ghosting, and intensive criticism, and when is this just too much? In this video I respond to a...
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How a Lack of Boundaries Makes You Invisible and Alone
If you grew up with an abusive or neglectful parent – and especially if you were the oldest child -- you may have learned to dance around and do everything in your power to make Mom stop being sad. You may have erased...
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Your Career Advances Quickly When You Heal These Trauma Symptoms
Too many people with Childhood PTSD are held back by trauma symptoms that damage their ability to envision their future, form positive work relationships, and maintain the focus and physical energy needed to get...
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My Response to PESSIMISTS and MORE Answers to Great Questions from the Comment Section
Every day, I read the comments and questions of hundreds of viewers on my YouTube channel. Sometimes the questions make me angry. Sometimes I want to give the person a hug! In this video I respond to some of the most...
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Limerence Confuses Your Ability to Tell What's REAL
It’s a horrible feeling when you THINK someone is interested in you and flirted with you, and then you respond in what you THINK is the same vibe – and THEY FREAK OUT. People who were emotionally neglected as kids...
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