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Some People Feel Betrayed When YOU Heal Your Trauma
Many people in your life really do want the best for you, but there are others who act as if you've done a terrible thing by working on your trauma. It's as if they want and need you to stay hurt and victimized,...
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Childhood Neglect And The Feeling That You Can Never Belong
Childhood PTSD is, in essence, an injury to the ability to connect with other people. So it's no surprise that abuse and neglect in your childhood may have left you with a feeling that no matter what you do, you never...
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If You "Throw" Love At Unavailable People, It Could Be From Wounds of Neglect
People neglected as children sometimes spend their WHOLE life longing or love – chasing it, fighting for it, longing for it, and never having it, all because of this -- an attraction to unavailable people. This...
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How to Set Boundaries When They're Obsessed With Their Next Love Object
Ever get the feeling you're just an accessory for a friend who is romantically obsessed? They WANT to hang out with you, and they love to tell you about the emotional rollercoaster of their latest romance. But what do...
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When Too Many Bad Things Happen At Once, DO THIS To Hold On, Stay Strong
There are times in your life when so many bad things happen at once, that you go into what I call a "trauma storm." The shock to your nervous system of those traumatic events is so overwhelming, that you lose your...
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Why You Didn't See The Red Flags
When you're first dating someone, it can be easy ONLY to see what you love about them. If you grew up with abuse or neglect, you may have a blind spot where obvious signs of trouble are waving in your face, and the...
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Why You Fall For Unavailable People
The need for love and security is SO strong that some people will do *anything* to feel like they’re in a relationship. If you attach to people you know are unavailable, and then structure your life around that person...
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When You Can't Understand Why You KEEP Making Similar, Destructive Choices
It’s normal for people who were traumatized as children to be drawn to people who are trouble. Maybe feel foggy when you meet someone you feel attracted to, or you rush into relationships, and you ignore signs that...
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The Real Story of Why I Quit Talk Therapy
If you seek help for the symptoms of Complex CPTSD, you will generally be steered toward talk therapy, and often, medication. But these two standard modes of treatment may not be will targeted for trauma symptoms. In...
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Neglect in Childhood Taught You to FIT Yourself to Unacceptable People
If your parents harmed you when you were small, you may have developed a coping mechanism that allowed you to accept mistreatment; you learned to just "make it OK" in your mind. But when this gets carried into...
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How to Take Space From Difficult People FOR NOW (While You Decide If It's Forever)
Getting distance from your family of origin can be a powerful way to accelerate your healing from past trauma. You may be clear you want it to be permanent. But if you're feeling guilty and unsure if you should do it,...
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Expecting New Partners to "Meet Your Needs" Will Push Them Away
People neglected and abused in childhood are prone to fantasize about the perfect person and perfect love. But this habit can separate you from the chance to have a real relationship with someone who loves you. The...
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