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“Cool-Girli-sm,” Magical Thinking and Limerence Keep You ALONE
You might THINK you are ready for real love but if you’re pouring ALL your emotional and romantic energy into someone who is stringing you along, not available, and has been clear they DON’T want a relationship, it’s...
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How Trauma Makes Your Productivity Come in BURSTS
“Productivity Crash” is a term I made up for a phenomenon I see over and over again, where those of us who lived through trauma as children demonstrate a capacity for huge accomplishments -- but then they're followed...
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Why Traumatized People Can't See RED FLAGS (4-video compilation)
If you grew up with trauma, there's a high probability that you've become emotionally attached to people who bring trouble into your life. Either they are unavailable, not into you, inappropriate, or abusive. But the...
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Here’s What It Takes to Face the Truth and Step Up Into Your Life
Living with your own self-defeating behaviors goes on so long sometimes, that when you even THINK of changing your life, you feel panicked. Many of us see what we need to change before we feel ready to take action....
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Childhood Neglect And The Attraction to Partners Who Don't Care
It’s a terrible thing when parents ignore and neglect a child for whom attention, love and security are just as important as food and water and oxygen. If you grew up starved for comfort, you may find yourself now, as...
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Why Your Traumatized Self CRAVES ORDER
When you’ve lived through abuse, neglect, bullying, hardship and getting ostracized, it becomes hard to think. Your life gets chaotic. Your feelings overwhelm you. It’s hard to keep track of time or take proper care...
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Obsessive Love and Limerence Ruin Real Hope of Love (4-Video Compilation)
Your mind plays tricks on you when you fall in love with someone who says flat out they don’t want a relationship. This absent character, present only as an electronic voice or a digital image but never as a real...
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Your Affair is Over But The Damage Is Still There
It’s easy to think that when a period of intense trauma in your life is over, you should be fine. But the trouble is, AFTER traumatic experiences you can be extremely vulnerable, not just to people who want to...
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If You Work Hard to Heal But Happiness Is Nowhere in Sight, Try THIS
Everybody loves transformation stories where someone has a horrible life of struggle and addiction and trauma – and then ONE good thing happens and EVERYTHING is happy ever after. It sounds good on social media but...
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It Takes Inner Power to Do the Work and Change Your Life
Trauma during childhood can teach you to "give away your power" through self-destructive tendencies, people pleasing, and an urge to flee conflict, responsibility, and intimacy. To heal trauma, you need your POWER....
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The Real Reason Your Trauma Symptoms Come Back (4-Video Compilation)
When we're talking about trauma, a "trigger" is a stimulus that sets off Childhood PTSD symptoms -- in particular, dysregulation. In this 4-video compilation I share four of my most popular videos about common - but...
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If Marriage and Kids are What You Want, Here’s What to Do
If your heart's desire is to marry a man and have children but you keep dating men who don't want quite the same thing, it helps to get VERY clear about what you want and to change the way you date. In this video, I...
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