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Succeeding at Work You Love is a Powerful Part of Trauma Healing
Work and career are important to success and happiness. But trauma from your childhood can trigger behaviors that block your advancement and ruin opportunities. In this podcast, I teach common trauma-driven behaviors...
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Stop Giving Away The INNER POWER You Need to Heal Your Trauma
Trauma during childhood can teach you to "give away your power" through self-destructive tendencies, people pleasing, and an urge to flee conflict, responsibility, and intimacy. To heal trauma, you need your POWER --...
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Past Trauma Could Be Why You Struggle to Get Things Done
How hard do you work to keep your life on track? Some people with past trauma find they take on too much, while others are disorganized and procrastinate, hide from responsibilities, struggle to move forward toward...
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No More Fitting Yourself to Unacceptable People And Situations!
When you were a kid, you had no choice but to adapt yourself to whatever neglectful hurtful treatment you received. But now that you're an adult, it's time to shed your ability to "Crapfit" -- my word for when you fit...
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How to Hold Boundaries Kindly, Without Apology
If you were raised by an emotionally unstable parent, you had no choice but to accept their chaotic life choices, lack of boundaries and ever-changing rules. This was a survival strategy for you, but now it's time to...
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Do You Procrastinate MORE Than Most People? Here's What to Do
Getting things done is a HUGE problem for many people, especially with the neurological effects of trauma complicating your ability to focus, to maintain consistent energy levels, and to handle emotional upsets that...
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Facing Your Shame Lets You Heal It or Change It
You may have been told that shame is just a way that bad people try to make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes this is true, but the harder kind of shame is "earned" shame -- where you feel badly about something...
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The Destructive Attraction to Unavailable People: How to Heal
One of the most brutal but deceptive symptoms of Childhood PTSD is the romanticization of unrequited love. Loving, available partners seem boring, while those who don't want you seem to represent a higher realm of...
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Casual Sex Culture Is Toxic For People Who Were Neglected/Abandoned In Childhood
"Cool Girls" are women who appear to feel relaxed and happy about "friends with benefits" relationships, and to have no expectations that get in the way of commitment-free sex. There's a lot of social pressure to be...
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The Trauma Won't Stop Until YOU Break the Cycle
A history of abandonment in childhood makes you prone to attach to people who abandon you and worse. But focusing on the REASON for the pattern is an explanation, but not a solution. If your pattern is terrible...
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If You Are Struggling To Connect With REAL Friends, You're Probably Doing THIS!
If you're feeling alone, lacking friends or feeling that the friendships you have are shallow, fragile, or hurtful, you may be experiencing one of the most common signs that trauma in your childhood has affected you....
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10 Ways People With Childhood PTSD Self-Sabotage
How many of your problems today were a) caused by things that happened to you in the past versus b) caused by trauma-driven behaviors that you haven't yet been able to change? You can't change the past but you CAN...
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