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"Emotional Sobriety" Makes Trauma Healing Faster and More Sustainable
While many people think the goal of healing is to feel MORE of your feelings, people with Childhood PTSD more often need emotional self-regulation. There are short-term strategies and changes you can make in your life...
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Don't Waste More Time on Trauma Healing That's Not Working for You
If you're living with the effects of Childhood PTSD, you've probably had to work extra hard to accomplish things that come easily to non-traumatized people. But everything gets better when you find an approach to...
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Blame-y Apologies Are Worse Than No Apology
If you’ve struggled in your life with self esteem, or making good friends, chances are good that there are some damaged and dysfunctional relationships in your past. If you’re like many of us with CPTSD, you may feel...
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It Doesn't Involve Sex, But It's Still a Secret
An emotional affair is a relationship where a person already in a marriage or committed relationship has a secret life with another person, that isn’t exactly sexual, but it’s highly charged with romance. Charged...
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Watch Out For These CPTSD Beliefs That Ruin Relationships
The problem with growing up with neglect and abuse is that it can drive your thinking, constrict what you believe is possible for your life, and make you see only what is ugly in the world. These are what I call...
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Trying to Please Others Makes NO ONE Happy (4-Video Compilation)
If you grew up with an abusive or neglectful parent – and especially if you were the oldest child -- you may have learned to dance around and do everything in your power to make Mom stop being sad. You may have erased...
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Why It's So Hard to Face Reality About People Destroying Your Life
There’s this strange thing that happens to families when one member falls into destructive addiction. We know that addicts’ thinking gets distorted, and they fall into denial and lying and blaming and sometimes...
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No Sense of Self Comes From Childhood Neglect
A chaotic and neglectful family life can deprive a child of forming an identity – not just who they are, but what they like, and what they might like to pursue in their lives. In adulthood, you may try to fill this...
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CPTSD and The Curse of Loneliness: How to Heal
There’s a symptom of trauma that is common in everyone, but it’s almost universal for people who were abused or neglected as children. It's a haunting sense of loneliness, and not fitting in, that can make any effort...
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Heal These Trauma Wounds and Watch Your Productivity Soar
Have you ever struggled to get even basic things done, like get to work on time, put wet laundry in the dryer, or make a phone call? Everyone procrastinates sometimes, but for people who were abused or neglected in...
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Male/Female Friendships Are Tested When One of You Gets A Partner
If you're a woman and you say your "close male friend" is just a friend, one test of your true feelings is how you feel when he gets into a relationship, and how she feels about you. A lot of people will gaslight the...
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Some CPTSD Partners Can’t Read the Signs You Need Support
A history of abuse and neglect can make a person crave extra emotional support. But when both partners have CPTSD, communication can be fraught and feelings of abandonment can turn into hours-long processing sessions....
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