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If Love Is What You Want, Here’s What to Do Differently
When someone writes to me and says “I’m dating this guy,” I learned to understand that “DATING” for some people means “just having sex.” No friendship, no commitment, no talking about real things, no helping each...
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Childhood Trauma, Lost Identity and RAGE
People who were neglected in childhood often turn out with a false identity that they were pressured into by parents who couldn’t see who they were AT ALL. This a pattern I’ve come to recognize in hundreds of letters...
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Watch This And Find Out How Far You've Come (Further Than You Think!)
Watching videos about trauma can take you down a rabbit hole of bad memories, scary diagnoses, and fears and doubts about whether life will better for you. Chances are, you’re ALREADY getting better, and in this video...
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How To Stay Sane When You Fall In Love (4-video Compilation)
Nothing ruins new love like an agenda. If you grew up with trauma, you may end up romantically attached to people before you've gotten to know them, but there's a better way to date! In this four-video compilation, I...
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Obsessive Love Can Cross The Line Into Dangerous Delusion
I get letters from people who claim to want to heal from limerence – which is an addiction-level romantic obsession with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. But sometimes, the letter itself feels toxic to me –...
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Unhealed Disorganized Attachment Triggers Emotional Abuse
A Disorganized Attachment style is a trauma wound that can drive you to LONG for love and then push it away again and again, every time you feel irritated, or vulnerable, or disappointed. Childhood trauma is almost...
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Do This to Lift Your Mood Immediately
Life will always have hardships, but everything you do to improve your life will run aground unless you know how to also lift your mood. It's not just happy talk. In this video I teach actions you can take right away...
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Yes, Anger Can Be Healthy But NOT Like This (4-Video Compilation)
** Anger is a natural emotion. It exists to activate you in the face of danger, and as a response to unjust treatment. Anger is healthy... unless it gets stuck in a loop and can't be processed into either action, or...
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Happiness Begins When You Know What You're Here For
Everyone longs to live a purposeful life. You need intuition and persistence to discover what you're here to do, but childhood trauma can block this awareness, and keep you feeling trapped and unable to find your...
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People Who KNOW They're Inflicting Emotional Damage Need to Hear THIS
There's an urban legend out there that if you think you might be a narcissist, you're not a narcissist. Many people display narcissistic behaviors at times, and are wise to be aware and work on that. But in this...
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The Real Reason It's So Hard to Recover from Childhood PTSD
Abuse and neglect in childhood can set in motion lifelong trauma symptoms. The people who hurt you are 100% responsible for this harm, and it's good if you can acknowledge that it's not your fault. It's also true that...
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Focusing Too Much on Others Damages Your Life (4-Video Compilation)
Many people misunderstand what codependency actually is -- a compulsion to donate all your focus to another person's life, and then to try to control them and extract your happiness from the hope that THEY will...
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