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Why It's So Hard to Tell When Someone Else Is The Problem (and When It's Just You)
If you were neglected, manipulated, or gaslighted as a child you may still be struggling to be sure if a hurtful situation is a) someone mistreating you or b) your imagination. Until you heal trauma-driven wounds to...
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Attachment Wounds Rob You Of The Feeling of “Home”
There’s a deep need in every one of us to have a parent who deeply loves us. Where THEY are, is where we derive the feeling of HOME. And sometimes, as we grow up and go out on our own, when times get rough - the love...
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How Abandonment Wounds Trick You Into Staying With People Who Mistreat You
If you grew up emotionally neglected, you may have learned to ignore and override clear information that someone is mistreating you. At first you feel hurt and angry when they do it; you try to set a boundary and pull...
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The Limerent Flip: Facing Rejection Becomes So Unbearable You Stay Obsessed
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Limerent obsession with someone you can't have can become more than harmless little fantasy -- especially if they give you signals that there's HOPE. Limerence is basically an addictive tendency to POUR your...
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People Neglected in Childhood Can't See BIG HOLES In New Relationships
Rather than creating a happy life, people with trauma from childhood wait for the ideal relationship to come along and MAKE them happy. You may catch yourself believing that if you could JUST find the right person, or...
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Signs You Weren't Listened to As a Child
Kids are supposed to learn how to 'be" in the world from their parents. If you were ignored, you had to figure things out by yourself using a child's logic. If you tend to go into a stress response when you try to...
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Why fantasy hurts your ability to form REAL relationships
Magical thinking is a symptom of trauma. It helped you when you were small to imagine a life that was safe and welcoming for you. But if the habit of distorted thinking around romantic relationships continues into...
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Hyper-Intense Reactions to Stress Damages Relationships; Here's What to Do
Abuse, neglect and other traumatic experiences from your past can cause nervous system changes that cause your emotions to come out stronger than other people's. Rage, panic, or passionate attachment to others can get...
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LIMERENCE: Major Losses Trigger Obsessive Love
Based on all the hundreds of letters I get – the background stories about abuse and neglect in childhood, and the present day struggles to form loving, committed relationships – it’s clear to me that limerence is the...
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Drama-Free Strategies to Keep Family Members From Ruining Your Day
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Friendship Skills For People Who Didn't Learn This At Home
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If you grew up in a dysfunctional family (especially if your parents didn't...
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How to Heal Your Trauma-Driven Thinking So You Can Make Better Decisions
A history of abuse and neglect in childhood affects how you think, what you believe, and how you act. This is a major factor that explains why people with CPTSD seem to make self-sabotaging decisions, ruining...
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