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When You Heal These Behaviors Everything Gets Better
Abuse and neglect in childhood may seem like the worst thing that's happened to you. But many people with CPTSD multiply the damage with a pattern of behaviors that keeps the trauma alive. Thankfully, healing is...
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Life FEELS Chaotic To People with Childhood PTSD, But Control Isn't The Answer
If you grew up with trauma, you are likely to have close relationships with both CONTROLLING people and OUT-OF-CONTROL people. Both cause problems, and both can drive you to have a overly-strong need to control...
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Your Attractiveness Grows When You Heal Your Unmet Childhood Needs
People whose partners have CPTSD often become confused about the meaning of "support." When should you tolerate yelling, ghosting, and intensive criticism, and when is this just too much? In this video I respond to a...
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How a Lack of Boundaries Makes You Invisible and Alone
If you grew up with an abusive or neglectful parent – and especially if you were the oldest child -- you may have learned to dance around and do everything in your power to make Mom stop being sad. You may have erased...
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Your Career Advances Quickly When You Heal These Trauma Symptoms
Too many people with Childhood PTSD are held back by trauma symptoms that damage their ability to envision their future, form positive work relationships, and maintain the focus and physical energy needed to get...
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My Response to PESSIMISTS and MORE Answers to Great Questions from the Comment Section
Every day, I read the comments and questions of hundreds of viewers on my YouTube channel. Sometimes the questions make me angry. Sometimes I want to give the person a hug! In this video I respond to some of the most...
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Limerence Confuses Your Ability to Tell What's REAL
It’s a horrible feeling when you THINK someone is interested in you and flirted with you, and then you respond in what you THINK is the same vibe – and THEY FREAK OUT. People who were emotionally neglected as kids...
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How to Tell If Your Relationship is Suffering Because ONE of You Is Codependent
Codependency sucks the life out the person who can't help but try to extract their own happiness by changing another person. If you believe you'd be happy IF your partner (or relative) would do what you believe is...
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Learn My Top Tips for Healing Past Trauma and Changing Your Life
So much content on trauma is about WHAT HAPPENED. It's true that acknowledging the past is important, but real healing happens when you can notice your CPTSD SYMPTOMS and use strategies to calm your trauma reactions...
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Working Harder Than Most Other People COULD Be Over-Functioning
Overfunctioning is a trauma reaction where a person does TOO much – too much work, too much managing, too much trying to compensate for other people being unsafe, unloving and unreliable. It’s a survival mechanism...
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If Others' Success Fills You With Pain, Here's What to Do
When you were never loved enough in the first place -- and then you witness someone else getting really, really loved – it can tear down all the defenses you’ve built up in order to cope with the painful absence of...
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These Five Phases Show You Where You've Healed CPTSD and What's Next
If you’re not making progress healing from the effects of a traumatic childhood, it’s very likely, that whatever you were told to do is not working for you.There's an old way the world sees trauma and treatment, and...
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