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Believing You’re Responsible to Fix Them Is Why It’s Not Working
The reason I say codependency is so destructive to everyone it touches is that A) it drains the person who has abandoned themselves to become entirely focused on fixing another person, and B) the person being fixed is...
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Stop Pretending You Don’t Need Love
When people want a “just-sex” relationship, they can hardly resist the lure of traumatized people who will pour out pure gold from their heart and yet suffer in silence that their “friend with benefits” never returns...
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These Triggers Are Telltale Signs You Were Neglected and Ostracized in Childhood
It's painful for a child to be left out, ignored and never included. This counts as trauma, and leaves behind telltale signs in the form of triggers in adulthood. You may find yourself reacting strongly with anger,...
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Effects of Neglect, Abandonment & Chaos In Childhood (4-Video Compilation)
If you were neglected or abandoned as a child, or your home life was full of chaos, you may still feel the effects through a pattern of triggers that push your nervous system into a dysregulated state. In this 4-video...
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Trauma Wounds Trigger Dissociation and "Flight" When You’re Loved
Imagine finally finding someone who loves you as you are. And after so many painful attempts to find love, THIS person is right by your side and wants to be with you. So what is it in people who grew up with trauma,...
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How Trauma Bonds Wreck Your Mental Health
Even rats will get obsessed if you alternate kindness with abuse. So it isn’t any wonder that people who grew up with trauma would have a tendency to fall in love even HARDER when the people who say they love you...
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Here are Signs No One Listened To You in Childhood
Children normally learn to handle themselves in the world from their parents. If you were ignored, you had to figure things out by yourself using a child's logic. In adulthood, you may find yourself going into a...
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Free Yourself From Your Family's Dysfunction (4-Video Compilation)
If you were born to sick people who neglect you, exclude you, and they couldn't give you proper care or protect you from harm, it was only natural for you to feel as a child that your family's shame was yours too. In...
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If Love Is What You Want, Here’s What to Do Differently
When someone writes to me and says “I’m dating this guy,” I learned to understand that “DATING” for some people means “just having sex.” No friendship, no commitment, no talking about real things, no helping each...
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Childhood Trauma, Lost Identity and RAGE
People who were neglected in childhood often turn out with a false identity that they were pressured into by parents who couldn’t see who they were AT ALL. This a pattern I’ve come to recognize in hundreds of letters...
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Watch This And Find Out How Far You've Come (Further Than You Think!)
Watching videos about trauma can take you down a rabbit hole of bad memories, scary diagnoses, and fears and doubts about whether life will better for you. Chances are, you’re ALREADY getting better, and in this video...
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How To Stay Sane When You Fall In Love (4-video Compilation)
Nothing ruins new love like an agenda. If you grew up with trauma, you may end up romantically attached to people before you've gotten to know them, but there's a better way to date! In this four-video compilation, I...
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