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Some People Have THIS Huge Advantage (#4 In My "Playing Small" Series)
People sometimes use the word “privilege” as an accusation that allows the accuser to feel better than the person they accuse, and even to shame and discredit them. Recently, Dr. Nicole Lepera...
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Childhood Neglect Makes You "Play Small" in Relationships (4-video compilation)
Recognizing your worth after neglect in childhood – where adults literally don’t care for you appropriately, can lead to a kind of emotional “leakiness” where -- even though you’ve created a good life and set goals as...
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Why Being "Fair" Can Be Another Way to PLAY SMALL
If women want to be equal, they should always pay their own share of the bill on dates with men -- or so my mother told me. This is the third video in my "Stop Playing Small" series. In it, I explain what happened...
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The Secret to Getting What You Really WANT
There are two competing ideas in our culture about how you should pursue happiness: One is that anything that happens to you, you have to MAKE it happen. And the opposing idea is that there’s something "unspiritual"...
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Here's How You Can Stop Hiding and Start to SHINE
If you’ve been hurt by others SO many times that you can’t face conflicts, disappointments and sad moments, – that’s what I call playing small. And it stops you from being able to heal or change. Life involves...
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Stop Tolerating People Who Treat You Like S**t (4-video compilation)
A classic sign that a person grew up traumatized is that their life is full of hostile, cruel, and punishing people. If you were abused or neglected, you may freeze up when people are unkind, or lapse into "fawning,"...
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Attachment Styles and the Pain of Ending Toxic Relationships
The problem with romantic attachments, especially for those of us who were hurt and neglected as kids, is that our attachment wounds make us feel so.... attached! Ending a relationship can make it feel like you’re...
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How to Express Anger Without Ruining Everything
When you get angry and people can hear it in your voice? They don’t like it! And you know what? That’s OK! Because in a healthy relationship, it’s OK for you to express your anger. In fact it’s necessary. But it’s all...
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Stop Letting Your Trauma Drive Decision-Making
With unhealed trauma wounds, it's easy to make terrible mistakes at critical moments. Times of stress (which is often when you have to make important decisions) can shut down critical thinking skills, and push you...
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What To Do When You Can't Let Go of The One You Love (4-Video Compilation)
Romantic obsession with someone you can’t have is a sneaky, life-wrecking toxin – a "drug" that feels great at first. It seems like if you could just have that person, your life would go from empty... to amazing. It...
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What to Do When You’re In Love With Someone Who Can Ruin Your Life
Work is the worst place to fall in love with someone you can’t have – or rather, someone with whom you're forbidden to pursue a relationship with. Workplace affairs have the potential to ruin your happiness and theirs...
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The Limits of Empathy in Toxic Relationships
The trouble with being abused is that it can wreck your thinking... You disconnect. You go numb. And when you feel awful inside, you can't always tell where the feeling is coming from. In a dysfunctional family, the...
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