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CPTSD & Attachment Styles: Partners Who Trigger Abandonment Wounds
People neglected as children often find themselves drawn to partners who have an avoidant attachment style -- emotionally cold, often withdrawing love and connection unexpectedly, triggering anxious partners to blame...
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Codependents THINK They're Just Being Nice But Here's the Brutal Reality
It's common for people who grew up with abuse and neglect to find themselves in codependent relationships. People use the term casually but being codependency fosters emptiness, poverty and rage. How can you tell if...
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What to Do When They Don't Respect Your Wishes About Drugs and Alcohol
You are allowed to set boundaries around other people's drinking and drug use -- but what does that mean? In this podcast, I respond to a letter from a woman whose partner agreed not to smoke cigarettes or weed but...
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When Your Trust Is Broken, Past Trauma Flares (Here's What to Do)
CPTSD conditions you to become depressed, confused, and sometimes paralyzed in the face of betrayal. In this podcast, I respond to a letter from a woman whose husband has been poking holes in their condoms, sending...
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Codependents THINK They're Just Being Nice But Here's the Brutal Reality
It's common for people who grew up with abuse and neglect to find themselves in codependent relationships. People use the term casually, but being codependency fosters emptiness, poverty, and rage. How can you tell if...
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Here's What It FEELS LIKE When Your Nervous System Is Dysregulated
Dysregulation is a core symptom of Complex-PTSD. If you had a rough childhood, you may have thought these symptoms were your fault -- personal failings that you're ashamed you haven't changed yet. Once you know the...
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How to Radically Change Your Life In Just a Year
People with past trauma are often told that healing will take a LONG time. Some problems do take time, but others can be solved quickly by asking yourself the right questions. And solving one hard problem can pave the...
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These 10 Truths Clear Up Trauma-Driven Thinking and Empower You to Heal
When it comes to healing CPTSD, there's abundant advice and hundreds of treatments, but few signs that any of it can truly change your life. If you're ready to move forward with your own recovery from past trauma,...
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Before You Ruin Another Friendship, Listen to THIS
People who were abused and neglected as children often have more than their share of conflict and ruined friendships. In this episode, I teach the ways CPTSD can drive behaviors that damage your relationships, and...
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The REAL Reasons People Keep Breaking Up With You
You may have been told that the reason people keep breaking up with you is because you're actually TRYING to recreate abandonment trauma from childhood. But what if the real reason is that Complex PTSD is driving your...
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Why It Feels Like The Person YOU CAN’T HAVE Can Make You Happy
Infatuation with someone you can't have when it becomes overpowering enough, is called "limerence." It produces a fantasy that helps you escape what is tedious or sad in your life. But the addictive thoughts can only...
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Don't Argue or Fight With a NARCISSIST - Do This Instead To WIN EVERY TIME
Opinion Bullies are narcissists who attempt to shame and control people who don't agree with them, and who refuse to be controlled. We once recognized them as the "mean drill sergeant" archetype by now they are...
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