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Why Narcissists Want To Stay FRIENDS After They Break Up With You
When you dated them, it started out AMAZING -- like you were made for each other. But as soon as you got close to them, they started casually bringing up their many “friends” – friends they’d had sex with in the past,...
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What Does It Mean Losing Friends Is a Pattern?
If a friend suddenly refuses to speak to you and you don’t understand why, it may be that they were not a good friend in the first place. But if it keeps happening with several friends, the evidence points to...
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Why You Feel Left Out in Groups (and What to Do About It)
When I started teaching about trauma I never expected that one of my biggest challenges -- feeling like I didn't fit in with other people -- was actually a common trauma symptom. If you have CPTSD or you have trouble...
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Why Some Traumatized People Think Focusing on Trauma Is Stupid
In this video, I respond to an angry comment on my YouTube channel from a woman annoyed that some people appear to accept others' bad behavior, justifying it as "trauma." Hear the comment, and my take on why some...
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How to Heal Your Wounded Soul After Trauma (4-Video Compilation)
Healing trauma is more than psychological. It's physical, it's practical -- and here's the part where trauma experts are curiously silent -- it's spiritual. Abuse and neglect are injuries to the spirit, and where we...
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Here's My Story on How I Learned to Help Others Heal Their Trauma Symptoms
I make it VERY clear that I'm not a therapist or doctor, but sometimes viewers ask why I didn't go the route of becoming a therapist, and how I learned to do what I do. In this video, I give the full story on how I...
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Try These Emergency Measures to Re-Regulate Anywhere
Everyone, not just traumatized people, gets dysregulated sometimes. And virtually everyone eventually re-regulates. But if you were traumatized at a young age, it can cause you to get dysregulated more easily than...
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You Hide That You Love Them, and Pretend You’re Their Friend
When you’re into someone but you hide how you really feel, don’t be surprised when the reality of the situation smacks you down. People who were traumatized as kids are particularly vulnerable to this “just friends”...
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For Healing, Sane Action is More Powerful Than Sad Stories
The stories you tell yourself are an expression of what YOU believe is important about you. And if you're wedding to saying life is never fair, everyone’s terrible, they take advantage of you, you never get a break –...
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Join Me in a FREE Daily Practice Call
The Daily Practice is a set of two techniques -- a specific form of writing, followed by a simple meditation, that I was shown 31 years ago when I was in extreme distress after a series of traumas, and was barely able...
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How to Become Emotionally "Sober" (4-video compilation)
People who were abused and neglected as children sometimes struggle to stay emotionally regulated. Part of healing is to learn to self-regulate; this is a skill that, in substance recovery programs, is called...
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Self-Differentiation: Interview with Jerry Wise, Family Systems Expert
In this video, I interview fellow YouTuber and Family Systems expert Jerry Wise. He has a deep background in counseling and marriage and family therapy. Now he's on YouTube teaching people how they can separate...
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