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Childhood Trauma and Damaged Perception (4-Video Compilation)
As a child you developed the ability to use "magical thinking" to cope with abuse and neglect, but NOW, as an adult, it just might be blocking you from ever escaping troubled relationships, finding inner strength, and...
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Here’s How You Know It’s Time to Tell Him You’re Into Him
You have a friend you’re secretly in love with. You thought you had to act like just a friend, to keep them as a friend, because you were sure they would never have feelings for you. That could be true, or could be...
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How Trauma Makes It Hard to Recognize What’s Really Happening
When traumatized people date, it’s easy to detach from reality, and create elaborate constructs that explain why other people do what they do, and why we feel hurt by it – without having to actually admit what's...
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You May Be Signalling to Others That You Feel “Less-Than”
Even if you're good at acting confident, you may be giving off signs that you feel "less than" other people. Low self-esteem can have the effect of pushing good people away from you, and this in turn makes it harder...
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They're Not Into You, So You Love Them MORE (4-Video Compilation)
People neglected as children sometimes spend their WHOLE life longing for love – chasing it, fighting for it, and never having it, all because of an attraction to unavailable people. This includes people who are...
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Family Emotional Abuse and The Lifelong Sense of Disconnection
It’s a terrible form of abuse when whole families gang up on one person. Sometimes it’s scapegoating, where they blame you for problems you never caused. Sometimes it’s just plain bullying and cruelty, and of course...
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How to Keep Narcissistic Parents From Controlling Your Life
Some people get consumed by narcissistic loved ones they’re trying to stay connected with. Other people get off the treadmill by going no contact. But a lot of people are in the middle, with a mix of concern, and a...
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This Mindset Strengthens You to Overcome Childhood Trauma
I have a secret portal that allows me to see and understand what childhood trauma does to people -- the different patterns it follows, and which kinds of people end up making rapid progress, and which ones stay stuck....
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Emotional Dysregulation Damages Relationships (4-Video Compilation)
If you grew up hurt by your parents -- neglected, not heard, not seen – chances are good that you get emotionally dysregulated. This means your nervous system reacts to stressors with EXTRA strong emotions. When most...
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Trauma Makes Us Feel "Different." But Is It True?
A lot of us who grew up with trauma have trouble shaking off the feeling that we’re somehow different than non-traumatized people. It seems sometimes like everyone else seems to know how to act, what to say, how to be...
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Don’t Let Manipulative “Poly” Friends Push You to Self-Abandon
Everyone MUST be free to pursue the relationships and the way of life that makes them happy. Provided what they are doing is legal, we can’t condemn them. But even though some behaviors are legal, it doesn’t mean they...
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5 Ways a Lack of Attunement Keeps You From Connecting
So many people are feeling blocked from connecting with other people. If you find yourself trying and trying, but nothing seems to lead to friendship or people even seem to be pulling away from you, there might be a...
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