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Here's My Story on How I Learned to Help Others Heal Their Trauma Symptoms
I make it VERY clear that I'm not a therapist or doctor, but sometimes viewers ask why I didn't go the route of becoming a therapist, and how I learned to do what I do. In this video, I give the full story on how I...
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Try These Emergency Measures to Re-Regulate Anywhere
Everyone, not just traumatized people, gets dysregulated sometimes. And virtually everyone eventually re-regulates. But if you were traumatized at a young age, it can cause you to get dysregulated more easily than...
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You Hide That You Love Them, and Pretend You’re Their Friend
When you’re into someone but you hide how you really feel, don’t be surprised when the reality of the situation smacks you down. People who were traumatized as kids are particularly vulnerable to this “just friends”...
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For Healing, Sane Action is More Powerful Than Sad Stories
The stories you tell yourself are an expression of what YOU believe is important about you. And if you're wedding to saying life is never fair, everyone’s terrible, they take advantage of you, you never get a break –...
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Join Me in a FREE Daily Practice Call
The Daily Practice is a set of two techniques -- a specific form of writing, followed by a simple meditation, that I was shown 31 years ago when I was in extreme distress after a series of traumas, and was barely able...
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How to Become Emotionally "Sober" (4-video compilation)
People who were abused and neglected as children sometimes struggle to stay emotionally regulated. Part of healing is to learn to self-regulate; this is a skill that, in substance recovery programs, is called...
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Self-Differentiation: Interview with Jerry Wise, Family Systems Expert
In this video, I interview fellow YouTuber and Family Systems expert Jerry Wise. He has a deep background in counseling and marriage and family therapy. Now he's on YouTube teaching people how they can separate...
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Don't Let Mean People Destroy Your Focus (#5 in My "Stop Playing Small" Series)
Just when you think things are going well for you, BAM! Someone criticizes you, you get rejected, or you don't get chosen for an opportunity that meant everything to you. A rush of anger, panic and shame rises up, and...
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Some People Have THIS Huge Advantage (#4 In My "Playing Small" Series)
People sometimes use the word “privilege” as an accusation that allows the accuser to feel better than the person they accuse, and even to shame and discredit them. Recently, Dr. Nicole Lepera...
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Childhood Neglect Makes You "Play Small" in Relationships (4-video compilation)
Recognizing your worth after neglect in childhood – where adults literally don’t care for you appropriately, can lead to a kind of emotional “leakiness” where -- even though you’ve created a good life and set goals as...
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Why Being "Fair" Can Be Another Way to PLAY SMALL
If women want to be equal, they should always pay their own share of the bill on dates with men -- or so my mother told me. This is the third video in my "Stop Playing Small" series. In it, I explain what happened...
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The Secret to Getting What You Really WANT
There are two competing ideas in our culture about how you should pursue happiness: One is that anything that happens to you, you have to MAKE it happen. And the opposing idea is that there’s something "unspiritual"...
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