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What “I’m Not Ready For a Relationship” Really Means
So many of us who grew up with trauma live as “divided selves” – longing for real love, but playing along to keep people around who DON’T want that – not with us, anyway – but who are happy to soak all our attention...
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Some People Lash Out. Others Shut Down. Which Are You?
When we talk about trauma symptoms, we talk a lot about strong feelings, acting out and emotional dysregulation. But there’s this other side of how trauma wounds and CPTSD can control your behavior, and it’s through...
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How Trauma Makes It Hard to See What's Real (4-Video Compilation)
When it comes to healing CPTSD, there's abundant advice and hundreds of treatments, but they rarely take into account that trauma wounds make it difficult to learn, process, remember, and categorize information. When...
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How to REALLY Declutter Reminders of the Painful Past
A huge number of people who lived through trauma have ended up with a LOT of physical clutter. And because clutter can hold you back, it’s a good thing when you release belongings that you’ve held onto that you DON’T...
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Why It's Hard to Tell if a Friendship is Good (Or Toxic)
If you’re like a lot of people who grew up with trauma, you feel most comfortable with friends who also had trauma – people who struggle at times with the same trauma-driven problems you’ve struggled with. These...
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If You Had Trauma in Childhood, Healing This Will Change Your Life
There is a massive, almost universal trigger for Childhood PTSD symptoms – and you probably have it (even people who were not traumatized sometimes have it). It is HURRYING. We all do it. But when you have Childhood...
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Heal Insecurity-Driven Relationship Patterns (4-Video Compilation)
People who were neglected as children often struggle to form stable, lasting relationships. One big reason is insecure attachment -- a wound of trauma (particularly neglect) that creates a chronic sense of anxiety...
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Believing You’re Responsible to Fix Them Is Why It’s Not Working
The reason I say codependency is so destructive to everyone it touches is that A) it drains the person who has abandoned themselves to become entirely focused on fixing another person, and B) the person being fixed is...
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Stop Pretending You Don’t Need Love
When people want a “just-sex” relationship, they can hardly resist the lure of traumatized people who will pour out pure gold from their heart and yet suffer in silence that their “friend with benefits” never returns...
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These Triggers Are Telltale Signs You Were Neglected and Ostracized in Childhood
It's painful for a child to be left out, ignored and never included. This counts as trauma, and leaves behind telltale signs in the form of triggers in adulthood. You may find yourself reacting strongly with anger,...
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Effects of Neglect, Abandonment & Chaos In Childhood (4-Video Compilation)
If you were neglected or abandoned as a child, or your home life was full of chaos, you may still feel the effects through a pattern of triggers that push your nervous system into a dysregulated state. In this 4-video...
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Trauma Wounds Trigger Dissociation and "Flight" When You’re Loved
Imagine finally finding someone who loves you as you are. And after so many painful attempts to find love, THIS person is right by your side and wants to be with you. So what is it in people who grew up with trauma,...
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