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How to Keep Narcissistic Parents From Controlling Your Life
Some people get consumed by narcissistic loved ones they’re trying to stay connected with. Other people get off the treadmill by going no contact. But a lot of people are in the middle, with a mix of concern, and a...
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This Mindset Strengthens You to Overcome Childhood Trauma
I have a secret portal that allows me to see and understand what childhood trauma does to people -- the different patterns it follows, and which kinds of people end up making rapid progress, and which ones stay stuck....
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Emotional Dysregulation Damages Relationships (4-Video Compilation)
If you grew up hurt by your parents -- neglected, not heard, not seen – chances are good that you get emotionally dysregulated. This means your nervous system reacts to stressors with EXTRA strong emotions. When most...
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Trauma Makes Us Feel "Different." But Is It True?
A lot of us who grew up with trauma have trouble shaking off the feeling that we’re somehow different than non-traumatized people. It seems sometimes like everyone else seems to know how to act, what to say, how to be...
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Don’t Let Manipulative “Poly” Friends Push You to Self-Abandon
Everyone MUST be free to pursue the relationships and the way of life that makes them happy. Provided what they are doing is legal, we can’t condemn them. But even though some behaviors are legal, it doesn’t mean they...
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5 Ways a Lack of Attunement Keeps You From Connecting
So many people are feeling blocked from connecting with other people. If you find yourself trying and trying, but nothing seems to lead to friendship or people even seem to be pulling away from you, there might be a...
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Avoid These Self-Centered Behaviors (3-Video Compilation)
It's popular to call out relatives and ex-partners as narcissists, but what about the self-centered behaviors and thinking that are common in people traumatized as children? In this 4-video compilation, I share four...
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Your Partner’s Behavior is Trauma-Related, But It’s Still Not OK
One very bad sign that someone is losing themself in an unhappy relationship, is that they write to me about their partner and how wonderful they are, then tell me all about their partner’s traumatic past -- and then...
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S*x Work Thrives On Dissociation and Blocks Your Healing
Unpopular opinion, but so-called “adult entertainment” could not exist if there weren’t a steady supply of people who were abused as children, and skilled at shutting themselves down emotionally so that other people...
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Isolating to Manage Stress is a Trauma Symptom
There’s an almost universal symptom that people who grew up with trauma will tend to exhibit - and it’s a sense of isolation. Either you feel isolated even with people, or you literally isolate. Shutting people out...
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Limerence Is Toxic Fix for Lonely, Joyless Life (4-Video Compilation)
If you were emotionally neglected as a child, you may be extra-prone to direct your romantic energy toward people who are not with you. It’s the consequence of an injury to our neurological development, and it can...
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Walking on Eggshells So THEY Feel OK Means It’s Time to Go
Just because someone got a credential to practice therapy doesn’t necessarily mean they’re mentally stable, or able to prioritize the attention that you deserve, over whatever it is they’re feeling. If you had a...
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