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Learn to Recognize Ashamed Feelings, and Get Free
Some people treat shame as a problem. And sometimes the belief that you've done something wrong is imagined, and needs to be released. It's easier though, when you address what I call "earned shame" -- things you did...
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Don't Let "Friends" String You Along with Confusing Possibility of Love
When you’re into someone but you hide how you really feel, because you know they’re not really available, and you pretend you’re just friends. Don’t be surprised when the reality of the situation smacks you down....
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CPTSD and the Belief You Have to Hide Your Love
For people didn’t dare express themselves or cry or have needs when they were kids – it’s a hard road growing up and learning to BE in a relationship for real. You were trained that your true feelings were...
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Here's Proof This Power to Heal From Trauma Is Already Yours
There’s no common understanding of how adults are supposed to heal trauma from childhood – how that happens, where it comes from, what exactly you should do when you want to overcome all the problems that go with...
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Surprising Changes That Help with CPTSD (4-Video Compilation)
So much information about CPTSD focuses on the past and what other people have done. If you're feeling stuck, try focusing on changes YOU can make in your life today to reduce symptoms and feel calmer, more focused,...
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The Icky Feeling When Someone is Limerent on YOU
When someone is romantically obsessed with you, they usually will try to hide it. But make no mistake, you can feel it and if you’re not into them, it does not feel good. Limerence is the word for when a person...
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How Trauma-Driven Thinking Pushes You Into TRAPS
A history of trauma can leave you defenseless against terrible mistakes. When you feel confused and you find yourself hiding the truth of your life from the people who care about you, you may be in a dangerous state...
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Out-of-Control Childhood Can Lead to Controlling Behaviors Now
Nobody likes people who are controlling. Sometimes we all have to put up with controlling people because we have no one else to support us, or we need money, or, most often, because trauma trained us to tolerate...
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These Triggers Are Connected With Neglect in Childhood
Trauma in childhood is caused by more than "abuse." Being neglected -- by parents or by your peers and community - can be just as damaging to well-being. In this 4-video compilation I share some of my most popular...
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Non-Romantic Maladaptive Attachment Can Fixate You on Anyone
LIMERENCE HAS BEEN DESCRIBED AS "an involuntary potentially inspiring state of adoration and attachment to a limerent object (LO) involving intrusive and obsessive thoughts, feelings and behaviors -- from euphoria to...
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Trauma Healing Requires ACTION
If you’ve ever tried to get help for struggles in your life related to childhood trauma – you may have been told, pressured even, to spend time and money talking about the past – even if you’ve talked about the past...
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Remove These Common Roadblocks to Trauma Healing
Be careful what you *believe* about Complex PTSD, because a lot of information out there is outdated and outright WRONG. When you read or seek professional help, I urge you to be very THOUGHTFUL about what information...
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