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Obsessive Love Has Roots in Childhood Trauma (4 video-compilation)
Limerence is the term for obsessive love for someone you cannot have; it's more than a crush and more than being in love. As it gets stronger, it takes on the characteristics of an addiction. Some say the propensity...
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Your Path to Success Opens When You Heal These Trauma Wounds
Many of us who were abused or neglected as kids are forced to keep our lives small, neglecting the best part of all we can become. Going for big goals takes vulnerability, persistence and the ability to connect with...
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Raging, Blaming, & Justifying Your Behavior Won’t Heal Relationships
Part of healing from trauma is getting to the point where you can HONESTLY take responsibility for your behaviors (and trauma can activate some harsh behavior!). But just because bad things happened to you in the...
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When You First Date Them, Look For These Signs
We talk a lot about "red flags" that tell you someone is NOT a good person to date. But what are the signs that someone has the right characteristics to become a good partner? In this video I list the signs to look...
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Neurological Dysregulation: The Hidden Trauma Symptom You MUST Heal First
Trauma from childhood is associated with brain and emotional dysregulation that can cause a host of other CPTSD symptoms in adults. In this 4-Video compilation, I share my most popular videos on Dysregulation -- what...
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UNFREEZE Your Nervous System To Get Stuff Done
All over the world, people who were abused or neglected in childhood are procrastinating, and thinking they are the only one. Freezing up, getting stuck, and struggling to get work done is common for people with...
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Avoidant People Are Often Drawn to People They Can't Have
Avoidance is a style of relating to other people, often driven by past trauma, that can make you feel overwhelmed and anxious even thinking about connecting with other people. If you’ve ever dating an avoidant person,...
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Socializing is Stressful for People with CPTSD; Is it Controlling Your Life?
Growing up in a chaotic and dysfunctional family can leave you with a wounded ability to connect. And if you have this, you may have the tendency to cling to relationships, or you might respond to things that trigger...
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Why You Cling The Most to People Who Treat You You The Worst
Neglect and abandonment in childhood can leave you with "crossed wires" -- when someone you love mistreats you, you may feel the uncontrollable urge to make them happy -- to make them love you, even if it means...
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The Cost of Making Other People the Center of Your Life
If you grew up fearing that you were in danger from your own family, you may have developed a strong sense that YOU were responsible to make everyone safe and happy. You’ll see children do this sometimes – completely...
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CPTSD Healing Requires Freedom From Others’ Agenda
The idea that finding the right person will solve all your problems dies hard in the minds of traumatized people. If you were abused or neglected as a child, it can be difficult in adulthood to resist the lure of a...
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What I Learned in 25 Years of Recovery
12-Step fellowships can be powerful places of healing and connection. But not everyone who goes, gets something out of it. How can YOU get the most of your meetings? Here are 30 lessons I learned from 25 years in the...
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