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Could THIS Be Why SO Many People Treat You Badly?
A huge problem for many of us with CPTSD (definitely for me) is that we end up with too many MEAN people in our lives. These can be friends, relatives, co-workers, relatives, neighbors, bosses and partners. They...
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You Can’t Shake the Feeling That Everything is TEMPORARY
There’s this trauma-driven behavior where you go through life without ever quite investing in permanent or even long-term things -- relationships, jobs, groups you belong to and even your own home may all feel like a...
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How to Tell Trauma Is Driving You to Pull Away (4-video compilation)
Growing up in a chaotic and dysfunctional family can leave you with a wounded ability to connect. And while some traumatized people respond to things that trigger connection wounds by clinging to relationships, you...
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The Pros and Cons of Settling Down With Someone You Don’t Trust
It’s a no brainer to stay away from people who have betrayed you and drained you of the love you used to feel. But sometimes, there are reasons why you might think twice about returning to someone who’s decidedly NOT...
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“Cool-Girli-sm,” Magical Thinking and Limerence Keep You ALONE
You might THINK you are ready for real love but if you’re pouring ALL your emotional and romantic energy into someone who is stringing you along, not available, and has been clear they DON’T want a relationship, it’s...
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How Trauma Makes Your Productivity Come in BURSTS
“Productivity Crash” is a term I made up for a phenomenon I see over and over again, where those of us who lived through trauma as children demonstrate a capacity for huge accomplishments -- but then they're followed...
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Why Traumatized People Can't See RED FLAGS (4-video compilation)
If you grew up with trauma, there's a high probability that you've become emotionally attached to people who bring trouble into your life. Either they are unavailable, not into you, inappropriate, or abusive. But the...
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Here’s What It Takes to Face the Truth and Step Up Into Your Life
Living with your own self-defeating behaviors goes on so long sometimes, that when you even THINK of changing your life, you feel panicked. Many of us see what we need to change before we feel ready to take action....
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Childhood Neglect And The Attraction to Partners Who Don't Care
It’s a terrible thing when parents ignore and neglect a child for whom attention, love and security are just as important as food and water and oxygen. If you grew up starved for comfort, you may find yourself now, as...
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Why Your Traumatized Self CRAVES ORDER
When you’ve lived through abuse, neglect, bullying, hardship and getting ostracized, it becomes hard to think. Your life gets chaotic. Your feelings overwhelm you. It’s hard to keep track of time or take proper care...
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Obsessive Love and Limerence Ruin Real Hope of Love (4-Video Compilation)
Your mind plays tricks on you when you fall in love with someone who says flat out they don’t want a relationship. This absent character, present only as an electronic voice or a digital image but never as a real...
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Your Affair is Over But The Damage Is Still There
It’s easy to think that when a period of intense trauma in your life is over, you should be fine. But the trouble is, AFTER traumatic experiences you can be extremely vulnerable, not just to people who want to...
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