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Dating Rules to To Help YOU Stop Doing EVERYTHING For Your Mate
Your partner is not your child, so if you're doing everything for them (when they could do these things for themselves), you are overfunctioning. If you grew up with trauma, you may have been “programmed” to pick up...
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Trauma Makes You Prone to Conflict: Here's How to Stop
Having more than your share of conflict with other people is a common adult symptom of growing up with neglect and abuse. Fighting, arguing, and falling out with people can feel normal when your nervous system is...
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Triggering Past Trauma in Relationships
Attachment wounds stem from your primary relationship with parents when you were a child, and affect who you fall in love with, and how you behave in relationships. In this 4-video compilation, I share four of my most...
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How to Tell It's Time to Leave Your "Safe" Relationship
It’s so hard to know if you should stay in a safe relationship even though it’s dull, or break up with that person so you can try for something more romantic and wild? If you grew up with trauma, you may see these as...
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Harsh Signals (You Don't Realize You're Sending) Push Men Away
People with CPTSD often end up with a harsh "edge" to their personalities, especially when they feel vulnerable. It's no surprise that after a childhood of emotional neglect and deprivation, without protection from...
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How to Identify and Escape "Spiritual" Manipulation
Unfortunately, it can be very easy to take advantage of people who were traumatized as kids, and make them think that some uncomfortable or painful or exploitative situation will lead to being loved. When you haven’t...
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Four Signs of Complex PTSD That Most People Might Miss (4-Video Compilation)
One sign that childhood trauma is still affecting you is that you probably have at least one of these common triggers -- things that set off dysregulation in your nervous system, and make it hard for you to function...
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Should You Let Abusive Parents Back Into Your Life?
It’s every traumatized kids’ dream, that one day, your parents will finally see how much their abusive behavior hurt you, and they’ll change, and say they’re sorry – even if you had to cut them out of your life for a...
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Childhood Trauma and Self-Deception in Relationships
In life, there are people who are going to try to treat you badly. Your gut is going to tell you that what they’re doing is NOT OK, and your gut KNOWS you need to get out of there. But if you were abused or neglected...
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These Conversation Mistakes Push People Away (Try This Instead)
The most powerful thing you can do to have meaningful connection with people is to make them feel like you hear them. People love this, and doing it is an art. But very few people get trained how to do this,...
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How to Be a Strong and Powerful Person (4-Video Compilation)
Growing up abused and neglected has an almost universal effect of draining people of their innate POWER. You lose the sense that you have agency to make anything good happen. It takes will, resilience and luck to...
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Is He the One Who Can’t Do Intimacy? Or Are YOU?
Being avoidant in relationships isn’t just the obvious stuff – they won’t commit, they blow hot and cold, they ghost you when you try to talk about commitment. You might not realize this, but if you have a PATTERN of...
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