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Here's What It Really Takes to Find a Match (4-Video Compilation)
Trauma during childhood can damage your powers of discernment, leaving you vulnerable to choosing immature, unavailable, and even abusive partners who drag your life down. How can you override the limitations of...
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How to Tell Your Friend They are Driving You Crazy
Sometimes close friendships fall apart, and even though you try to work on them and accommodate the other person’s quirks, their behavior drives you nuts. You try talking about it, but it only leads to conflicts. You...
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Your Boundaries Get Foggy When You’re Grieving and Lonely
People with Childhood PTSD in the past often become uncertain of themselves, confusing behaviors that LOOK like love with the real thing, and then finding themselves entangled with manipulative people who want to take...
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For Healing Trauma, Venting Your Rage is Overrated
If you had childhood trauma, and you’ve sought help for the problems it’s caused you in your life, you may have been told that you needed to get in touch with your ANGER to heal. If you've been suppressing your rage,...
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Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style (4-Video Compilation)
When you need love desperately, it's easy to fill in the gaps and attach to people who turn out NOT to have love to give, and this in turn can activate your CPTSD symptoms. This is one of the ways an "anxious...
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Can An Emotional Affair Become The Real Thing?
Past trauma has a funny way of driving us into the worst kinds of relationships. A warm body or a diamond ring can feel like a little island of respite from the ocean of fear, shame and loneliness that often...
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Don't Let Trauma Keep You Stumbling Through Life
Even if you grew up in a neglectful or abusive household, it’s not too late to create a vision for what you want in your life, and what you want in a relationship. Too often, those of us with CPTSD cast around for a...
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"Emotional Sobriety" Makes Trauma Healing Faster and More Sustainable
While many people think the goal of healing is to feel MORE of your feelings, people with Childhood PTSD more often need emotional self-regulation. There are short-term strategies and changes you can make in your life...
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Don't Waste More Time on Trauma Healing That's Not Working for You
If you're living with the effects of Childhood PTSD, you've probably had to work extra hard to accomplish things that come easily to non-traumatized people. But everything gets better when you find an approach to...
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Blame-y Apologies Are Worse Than No Apology
If you’ve struggled in your life with self esteem, or making good friends, chances are good that there are some damaged and dysfunctional relationships in your past. If you’re like many of us with CPTSD, you may feel...
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It Doesn't Involve Sex, But It's Still a Secret
An emotional affair is a relationship where a person already in a marriage or committed relationship has a secret life with another person, that isn’t exactly sexual, but it’s highly charged with romance. Charged...
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Watch Out For These CPTSD Beliefs That Ruin Relationships
The problem with growing up with neglect and abuse is that it can drive your thinking, constrict what you believe is possible for your life, and make you see only what is ugly in the world. These are what I call...
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