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A Partner Needs to Know About Your Past -- But What If You're Just Dating?
Past trauma is almost always a factor among people who find themselves in the s*x industry; in recovery, many people leave this line of work and start their lives fresh. But what happens when it's time to date? In...
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Trauma Is a Portal Where Evil Gets In, Unless You Fight It
Most experts don't talk about this, but there's a very real phenomenon in the world that is commonly known as Evil. And while it's not scientific, it's recognized in all peoples, all countries, across history. It's...
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Neglect in Childhood and Self-Sabotage (4-Video Compilation)
It’s common in our culture for people to sleep together almost as soon as they meet. And people act like that’s fun and easy, and only foolish people can’t handle it, or think it should be avoided, in favor of...
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Stop Rationalizing the Way You Get Mistreated in Relationships
Children are brilliant at rationalizing how a parent could simultaneously LOVE them, but also hurt, punish and abandon them. As children we had to make it all fit in our minds but if you’re STILL doing this as an...
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Could THIS Be Why SO Many People Treat You Badly?
A huge problem for many of us with CPTSD (definitely for me) is that we end up with too many MEAN people in our lives. These can be friends, relatives, co-workers, relatives, neighbors, bosses and partners. They...
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You Can’t Shake the Feeling That Everything is TEMPORARY
There’s this trauma-driven behavior where you go through life without ever quite investing in permanent or even long-term things -- relationships, jobs, groups you belong to and even your own home may all feel like a...
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How to Tell Trauma Is Driving You to Pull Away (4-video compilation)
Growing up in a chaotic and dysfunctional family can leave you with a wounded ability to connect. And while some traumatized people respond to things that trigger connection wounds by clinging to relationships, you...
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The Pros and Cons of Settling Down With Someone You Don’t Trust
It’s a no brainer to stay away from people who have betrayed you and drained you of the love you used to feel. But sometimes, there are reasons why you might think twice about returning to someone who’s decidedly NOT...
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“Cool-Girli-sm,” Magical Thinking and Limerence Keep You ALONE
You might THINK you are ready for real love but if you’re pouring ALL your emotional and romantic energy into someone who is stringing you along, not available, and has been clear they DON’T want a relationship, it’s...
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How Trauma Makes Your Productivity Come in BURSTS
“Productivity Crash” is a term I made up for a phenomenon I see over and over again, where those of us who lived through trauma as children demonstrate a capacity for huge accomplishments -- but then they're followed...
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Why Traumatized People Can't See RED FLAGS (4-video compilation)
If you grew up with trauma, there's a high probability that you've become emotionally attached to people who bring trouble into your life. Either they are unavailable, not into you, inappropriate, or abusive. But the...
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Here’s What It Takes to Face the Truth and Step Up Into Your Life
Living with your own self-defeating behaviors goes on so long sometimes, that when you even THINK of changing your life, you feel panicked. Many of us see what we need to change before we feel ready to take action....
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