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LIMERENCE & Lost Love: What Happens When Your Ex Comes BACK?
Past abuse and neglect can leave you vulnerable to the idea of a GREAT LOVE: The feeling that someone special is out there can keep you depressed, longing, and unable to form close relationships with people who are in...
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Accept Them or Leave, But Stop Fighting Loved Ones Who Refuse to Change
SO many of my letter writers were raised by alcoholic parents; it's rare that any of them recover, change their self-destructive behavior, or acknowledge the harm they caused. When such a parent is dying, is it wise...
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How You Unconsciously Signal to Others You're Not Partner Material
People traumatized as children often struggle to name, hold and express their boundaries, especially when isolated and lonely. This can lead you to attack your own needs and expectations, and to cooperate with people...
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Do This To Get The Most Important Things DONE Now
Almost everyone struggles with procrastination sometimes. But people who were traumatized as children, the most important work of your life may never get done because your instinctive reactions to stress, criticism...
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How To Know What You Really WANT
How do you know when something is RIGHT for you? If you were traumatized as a child you may have lost the ability to sense "rightness" -- a true fit with someone you love, a job or decision. It's hard to know when a...
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How to Break the Spell of Trauma Bond Relationships
Can you be addicted to a person? If romantic relationships turn to obsession, especially after they're over, it's time to heal trauma bonds that "hook" you into people who are selfish, manipulative, and who "blow hot...
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Healthy People Look for These Characteristics in YOU
Trauma clutters our lives and emotions with habits and behavior that drive away healthy people; this might explain why you perceive there are "no good people out there." To attract and connect with healthy people,...
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CPTSD: Why You Cling to People Who Mistreat You
When someone mistreated you, have you ever responded with a desperate attempt to win their love, attempting to completely change yourself into the person you THOUGHT they wanted? That is a destructive form of...
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CPTSD & Attachment Styles: Partners Who Trigger Abandonment Wounds
People neglected as children often find themselves drawn to partners who have an avoidant attachment style -- emotionally cold, often withdrawing love and connection unexpectedly, triggering anxious partners to blame...
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Codependents THINK They're Just Being Nice But Here's the Brutal Reality
It's common for people who grew up with abuse and neglect to find themselves in codependent relationships. People use the term casually but being codependency fosters emptiness, poverty and rage. How can you tell if...
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What to Do When They Don't Respect Your Wishes About Drugs and Alcohol
You are allowed to set boundaries around other people's drinking and drug use -- but what does that mean? In this podcast, I respond to a letter from a woman whose partner agreed not to smoke cigarettes or weed but...
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When Your Trust Is Broken, Past Trauma Flares (Here's What to Do)
CPTSD conditions you to become depressed, confused, and sometimes paralyzed in the face of betrayal. In this podcast, I respond to a letter from a woman whose husband has been poking holes in their condoms, sending...
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