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No More Fitting Yourself to Unacceptable People And Situations!
When you were a kid, you had no choice but to adapt yourself to whatever neglectful hurtful treatment you received. But now that you're an adult, it's time to shed your ability to "Crapfit" -- my word for when you fit...
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How to Hold Boundaries Kindly, Without Apology
If you were raised by an emotionally unstable parent, you had no choice but to accept their chaotic life choices, lack of boundaries and ever-changing rules. This was a survival strategy for you, but now it's time to...
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Do You Procrastinate MORE Than Most People? Here's What to Do
Getting things done is a HUGE problem for many people, especially with the neurological effects of trauma complicating your ability to focus, to maintain consistent energy levels, and to handle emotional upsets that...
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Facing Your Shame Lets You Heal It or Change It
You may have been told that shame is just a way that bad people try to make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes this is true, but the harder kind of shame is "earned" shame -- where you feel badly about something...
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The Destructive Attraction to Unavailable People: How to Heal
One of the most brutal but deceptive symptoms of Childhood PTSD is the romanticization of unrequited love. Loving, available partners seem boring, while those who don't want you seem to represent a higher realm of...
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Casual Sex Culture Is Toxic For People Who Were Neglected/Abandoned In Childhood
"Cool Girls" are women who appear to feel relaxed and happy about "friends with benefits" relationships, and to have no expectations that get in the way of commitment-free sex. There's a lot of social pressure to be...
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The Trauma Won't Stop Until YOU Break the Cycle
A history of abandonment in childhood makes you prone to attach to people who abandon you and worse. But focusing on the REASON for the pattern is an explanation, but not a solution. If your pattern is terrible...
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If You Are Struggling To Connect With REAL Friends, You're Probably Doing THIS!
If you're feeling alone, lacking friends or feeling that the friendships you have are shallow, fragile, or hurtful, you may be experiencing one of the most common signs that trauma in your childhood has affected you....
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10 Ways People With Childhood PTSD Self-Sabotage
How many of your problems today were a) caused by things that happened to you in the past versus b) caused by trauma-driven behaviors that you haven't yet been able to change? You can't change the past but you CAN...
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Trauma Wounds Flare When You Try To Be Part of Groups? Here's How to Heal.
People who were abused or neglected as children long to feel a sense of belonging. But when you join a group, you may often find you struggle to feel like you're truly a part of it -- and you may find excuses to stay...
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Stop Playing Small: How to Recognize Partners Who Can Love You
People who were traumatized as children often grow up to either avoid relationships or to choose unavailable people who not only leave them unfulfilled but blocks them from meeting appropriate, available people who...
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LIMERENCE: Obsessing on Unavailable People Is an Escape from Your Own Life
People neglected as children often find themselves drawn to partners who have an avoidant attachment style -- emotionally cold, often withdrawing love and connection unexpectedly, triggering anxious partners to blame...
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