All Episodes
Episodes
Codependents THINK They're Just Being Nice But Here's the Brutal Reality
It's common for people who grew up with abuse and neglect to find themselves in codependent relationships. People use the term casually, but being codependency fosters emptiness, poverty, and rage. How can you tell if...
View Episode
Here's What It FEELS LIKE When Your Nervous System Is Dysregulated
Dysregulation is a core symptom of Complex-PTSD. If you had a rough childhood, you may have thought these symptoms were your fault -- personal failings that you're ashamed you haven't changed yet. Once you know the...
View Episode
How to Radically Change Your Life In Just a Year
People with past trauma are often told that healing will take a LONG time. Some problems do take time, but others can be solved quickly by asking yourself the right questions. And solving one hard problem can pave the...
View Episode
These 10 Truths Clear Up Trauma-Driven Thinking and Empower You to Heal
When it comes to healing CPTSD, there's abundant advice and hundreds of treatments, but few signs that any of it can truly change your life. If you're ready to move forward with your own recovery from past trauma,...
View Episode
Before You Ruin Another Friendship, Listen to THIS
People who were abused and neglected as children often have more than their share of conflict and ruined friendships. In this episode, I teach the ways CPTSD can drive behaviors that damage your relationships, and...
View Episode
The REAL Reasons People Keep Breaking Up With You
You may have been told that the reason people keep breaking up with you is because you're actually TRYING to recreate abandonment trauma from childhood. But what if the real reason is that Complex PTSD is driving your...
View Episode
Why It Feels Like The Person YOU CAN’T HAVE Can Make You Happy
Infatuation with someone you can't have when it becomes overpowering enough, is called "limerence." It produces a fantasy that helps you escape what is tedious or sad in your life. But the addictive thoughts can only...
View Episode
Don't Argue or Fight With a NARCISSIST - Do This Instead To WIN EVERY TIME
Opinion Bullies are narcissists who attempt to shame and control people who don't agree with them, and who refuse to be controlled. We once recognized them as the "mean drill sergeant" archetype by now they are...
View Episode
Loneliness & Trauma Make You CLING To New (and Unhealthy) Relationships At ANY Cost
Attachment wounds and the terror of being alone can drive you to rationalize HOLDING ON to broken people who have already left you. This common CPTSD symptom is one of the most destructive, draining you of happiness,...
View Episode
He's Not In Love With You Yet: Here Are Signs to Give It More Time
"I love you, but I'm not sure I'm IN love with you." If your partner says this, does it mean it's never going to work? In this episode, I respond to a letter from a woman who has a good dating relationship but is...
View Episode
"Waking Up" Out of Romantic Obsession: How to Heal
Limerence -- unrequited love that's obsessive and consuming -- can seize your mind and control your emotions. What happens when you "wake up" and realize you feel embarrassed about how your obsession affected the...
View Episode
You Long For A Great And Real Love Because You Are Meant to Have It
Your Childhood PTSD symptoms have likely created a lifetime of problems in relationships choosing unavailable people, clinging to bad relationships or avoiding intimacy altogether. But the reason you long for a real...
View Episode