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Before You Ruin Another Friendship, Listen to THIS
People who were abused and neglected as children often have more than their share of conflict and ruined friendships. In this episode, I teach the ways CPTSD can drive behaviors that damage your relationships, and...
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The REAL Reasons People Keep Breaking Up With You
You may have been told that the reason people keep breaking up with you is because you're actually TRYING to recreate abandonment trauma from childhood. But what if the real reason is that Complex PTSD is driving your...
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Why It Feels Like The Person YOU CAN’T HAVE Can Make You Happy
Infatuation with someone you can't have when it becomes overpowering enough, is called "limerence." It produces a fantasy that helps you escape what is tedious or sad in your life. But the addictive thoughts can only...
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Don't Argue or Fight With a NARCISSIST - Do This Instead To WIN EVERY TIME
Opinion Bullies are narcissists who attempt to shame and control people who don't agree with them, and who refuse to be controlled. We once recognized them as the "mean drill sergeant" archetype by now they are...
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Loneliness & Trauma Make You CLING To New (and Unhealthy) Relationships At ANY Cost
Attachment wounds and the terror of being alone can drive you to rationalize HOLDING ON to broken people who have already left you. This common CPTSD symptom is one of the most destructive, draining you of happiness,...
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He's Not In Love With You Yet: Here Are Signs to Give It More Time
"I love you, but I'm not sure I'm IN love with you." If your partner says this, does it mean it's never going to work? In this episode, I respond to a letter from a woman who has a good dating relationship but is...
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"Waking Up" Out of Romantic Obsession: How to Heal
Limerence -- unrequited love that's obsessive and consuming -- can seize your mind and control your emotions. What happens when you "wake up" and realize you feel embarrassed about how your obsession affected the...
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You Long For A Great And Real Love Because You Are Meant to Have It
Your Childhood PTSD symptoms have likely created a lifetime of problems in relationships choosing unavailable people, clinging to bad relationships or avoiding intimacy altogether. But the reason you long for a real...
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Narcissistic Abuse: These Characteristics Make You Vulnerable
When a partner manipulates and controls you, withholds love and demands fidelity -- these are signs of narcissistic abuse. In this episode, I respond to a letter from a woman struggling to finally close the door on an...
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CPTSD and The Aversion to Decent People Who Treat You Well
People who grew up in dysfunctional, neglectful families often find themselves attached to people who are LESS functional than themselves, and uncomfortable around people who are kind, decent, and living their lives...
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Emotional Intoxication vs Emotional Sobriety: How to Heal A Little Each Day
People who were abused and neglected as children sometimes struggle to stay emotionally "regulated." Part of healing is to learn to self-regulate; this is a skill that, in substance recovery programs is called...
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How to Apologize Beautifully
You know how when people give you a bad apology it makes you feel worse? Here's how to apologize the good way, the way that actually makes things better.
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