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The Destructive Attraction to Unavailable People: How to Heal
One of the most brutal but deceptive symptoms of Childhood PTSD is the romanticization of unrequited love. Loving, available partners seem boring, while those who don't want you seem to represent a higher realm of...
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Casual Sex Culture Is Toxic For People Who Were Neglected/Abandoned In Childhood
"Cool Girls" are women who appear to feel relaxed and happy about "friends with benefits" relationships, and to have no expectations that get in the way of commitment-free sex. There's a lot of social pressure to be...
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The Trauma Won't Stop Until YOU Break the Cycle
A history of abandonment in childhood makes you prone to attach to people who abandon you and worse. But focusing on the REASON for the pattern is an explanation, but not a solution. If your pattern is terrible...
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If You Are Struggling To Connect With REAL Friends, You're Probably Doing THIS!
If you're feeling alone, lacking friends or feeling that the friendships you have are shallow, fragile, or hurtful, you may be experiencing one of the most common signs that trauma in your childhood has affected you....
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10 Ways People With Childhood PTSD Self-Sabotage
How many of your problems today were a) caused by things that happened to you in the past versus b) caused by trauma-driven behaviors that you haven't yet been able to change? You can't change the past but you CAN...
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Trauma Wounds Flare When You Try To Be Part of Groups? Here's How to Heal.
People who were abused or neglected as children long to feel a sense of belonging. But when you join a group, you may often find you struggle to feel like you're truly a part of it -- and you may find excuses to stay...
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Stop Playing Small: How to Recognize Partners Who Can Love You
People who were traumatized as children often grow up to either avoid relationships or to choose unavailable people who not only leave them unfulfilled but blocks them from meeting appropriate, available people who...
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LIMERENCE: Obsessing on Unavailable People Is an Escape from Your Own Life
People neglected as children often find themselves drawn to partners who have an avoidant attachment style -- emotionally cold, often withdrawing love and connection unexpectedly, triggering anxious partners to blame...
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LIMERENCE & Lost Love: What Happens When Your Ex Comes BACK?
Past abuse and neglect can leave you vulnerable to the idea of a GREAT LOVE: The feeling that someone special is out there can keep you depressed, longing, and unable to form close relationships with people who are in...
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Accept Them or Leave, But Stop Fighting Loved Ones Who Refuse to Change
SO many of my letter writers were raised by alcoholic parents; it's rare that any of them recover, change their self-destructive behavior, or acknowledge the harm they caused. When such a parent is dying, is it wise...
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How You Unconsciously Signal to Others You're Not Partner Material
People traumatized as children often struggle to name, hold and express their boundaries, especially when isolated and lonely. This can lead you to attack your own needs and expectations, and to cooperate with people...
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Do This To Get The Most Important Things DONE Now
Almost everyone struggles with procrastination sometimes. But people who were traumatized as children, the most important work of your life may never get done because your instinctive reactions to stress, criticism...
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