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To Experience REAL Love, Heal the Wounds From Parents You Couldn’t Save
Here’s the hard truth about the wounds of CPTSD and trauma: Some of the things you didn’t GET as a child, can’t be fixed directly. We can’t go back in time. We can’t be children again to receive the proper love and...
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Attachment to Married or Long-Distance People Keeps You Always Alone
For people who were neglected as children, there’s this very damaging tendency to fall in love, but with the wrong people – those who are married, or so far away the whole relationship is online, or those who are not...
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CPTSD Triggers Set Off Three Types of Reactions: Here's What to Do
Intense emotional reactions are common in people who were abused or neglected in childhood. They are set off by triggers (stimuli that cause neurological dysregulation), which then prompt emotional reactions, which...
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Emotional Neglect and the Lure of Unavailable People (4-Video Compilation)
Growing up without adequate time and care from parents is a form of trauma. In adulthood, it can leave you prone to choosing partners who ALSO starve you for love and attention. Whether you're fallen for someone who...
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Painful Romantic Obsession Means It’s Time for Damage Control
It’s normal and common for people who were neglected or abandoned in childhood to fall deeply in love with people who make them feel abandoned and unwanted ALL over again. That’s what limerence is – an obsession or...
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Trying to “Save” The People You Date Helps No One
The “Savior Complex” is a horrible obsession, where instead of getting to know someone and seeing if there is harmony and potential for you as friends or as partners – you immediately imagine a version of them that is...
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Childhood Trauma Damaged Your Ability to Tell What's True
The trauma symptom that’s easy to recognize in other people, but SO hard to recognize in ourselves, is damaged perception. Childhood PTSD can make you unable to discern what is true and not true. You can't tell what...
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Obsessive Love Has Roots in Childhood Trauma (4 video-compilation)
Limerence is the term for obsessive love for someone you cannot have; it's more than a crush and more than being in love. As it gets stronger, it takes on the characteristics of an addiction. Some say the propensity...
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Your Path to Success Opens When You Heal These Trauma Wounds
Many of us who were abused or neglected as kids are forced to keep our lives small, neglecting the best part of all we can become. Going for big goals takes vulnerability, persistence and the ability to connect with...
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Raging, Blaming, & Justifying Your Behavior Won’t Heal Relationships
Part of healing from trauma is getting to the point where you can HONESTLY take responsibility for your behaviors (and trauma can activate some harsh behavior!). But just because bad things happened to you in the...
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When You First Date Them, Look For These Signs
We talk a lot about "red flags" that tell you someone is NOT a good person to date. But what are the signs that someone has the right characteristics to become a good partner? In this video I list the signs to look...
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Neurological Dysregulation: The Hidden Trauma Symptom You MUST Heal First
Trauma from childhood is associated with brain and emotional dysregulation that can cause a host of other CPTSD symptoms in adults. In this 4-Video compilation, I share my most popular videos on Dysregulation -- what...
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