Take the course that's all about learning successful strategies for dating and relationships, just for people who experienced abuse and neglect in childhood.

  • Learn the basics about Childhood PTSD, ACEs, and the brain dysregulation that can impact emotions, perceptions and your chances of finding love.

  • Clarify what you really want in life and in a relationship, and the characteristics of your ideal partner.

  • Identify self-defeating behaviors that have hurt your relationships (and choice of partners) in the past.

  • Clear away obstacles to healthy relationships, including habits, attitudes and existing relationships that hold you back.

  • Revolutionize your dating strategy with Anna's "Structured Dating" program, which helps you get to know potential mates before forging an emotional bond: No more rushing in, or forging bonds with the wrong people.

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Course curriculum

  • 1


    • Video 1: Welcome to the Course
    • Dating Course Contents
    • Video 2: Introduction
    • Video 3: My Story
  • 2

    Part One: Get Your Baseline

    • Video 4: Define What You Want and Write it Down
    • Exercise: Define Your Ideal Life
    • Exercise: Define Your Ideal Partner
    • Video 5: Get your ACE Score
    • Exercise: Your ACE Score
    • Video 6: Understand Dysregulation, the Root of Childhood PTSD
    • Checklist: Signs and Symptoms of Childhood PTSD
    • Exercise: Your Own Signs of Dysregulation
    • Video 7: Ten Emergency Measures to Re-Regulate
    • Instructions: Emergency Measures to Re-Regulate
  • 3

    Part Two: Make a Space for a Period of Change

    • Video 8: Overview of the Daily Practice
    • Overview of the Full Daily Practice
    • Video 9: How I Learned the Daily Practice
    • Video 10: How to Write Fears and Resentments
    • Video 11: How to Meditate
    • How to Meditate
    • Daily Practice FAQs
  • 4

    Part Three: Identify Self-Defeating Behaviors

    • Video 12: Intro to Self-Defeating Behaviors
    • Self-Assessment: Identify Self-Defeating Behaviors
    • Video 13: We're Attracted to Unavailable/Inappropriate People
    • Self-Assessment: Attraction to Unavailable People
    • Video 14: We Get Triggered Around Intimacy
    • Self-Assessment: Triggered by Intimacy
    • Video 15: We Get Too Good at Fitting Ourselves to Crap
    • Self Assessment: Fitting Ourselves to Crap
    • Video 16: We Have Trouble Seeing Our Own Role in Our Problems
    • Self-Assessment: Seeing My Role
    • Video 17: We Have Trouble Being Alone, or Leaving
    • Self-Assessment: Trouble Being Alone
  • 5

    Part Four: Clear Away Obstacles

    • Video 18: Clear Away the Habits/Life Conditions Standing In Your Way
    • Self Assessment: Personal Problems
    • Video 19: Clear Away Attitudes and Beliefs That Stop You
    • Self-Assessment: Attitudes and Beliefs
    • Video 20: End Relationships That Don't Fit
    • Self-Assessment: Relationships That Don't Fit
    • Video 21: How to Break Up with Someone You're Dating
    • How To Break Up
  • 6

    Part Five: Structured Dating

    • Video 22: Why We Need Structured Dating
    • Structured Dating Overview
    • Video 23: Going Slowly
    • Video 24: Making Dates
    • Video 25: Now that You're Dating
    • Video 26: How to Stay Regulated in a Relationship
    • Tips to Stay Regulated in a Relationship
    • Video 27: How to Know if This Person is the One to Marry

Who Belongs In This Course?

The course is appropriate for women and men of any age who want to change trauma-driven patterns, and take steps to form a healthy, committed relationship

  • Did you grow up with abuse, neglect, or exposure to parental violence, addiction or alcoholism?

  • Do you have a history of attraction to unavailable or inappropriate people?

  • Do you get triggered by intimacy, and worry old behaviors will sabotage good relationships?

  • Are you TOO good at fitting yourself to unacceptable people and situations?

  • Do you find it difficult to identfiy how you may be repeating negative patterns?

  • Do you stay in unhealthy relationships even when you know you should leave?

  • Do you long for a committed relatonship or marriage that's free of drama and full of love and security?

What others are saying...

"My people-savvy has skyrocketed"

"My people-savvy has skyrocketed. I can tell who’s an actual a**hole and who is a kind friend giving me tough-love or a coworker giving feedback instead of reacting unthinkingly or withdrawing defensively. Thanks so much Anna, for your plain-speaking, your understanding and your sharing! I’ve got more out of your ‘layperson’ course and your personal insight and lived experience than I ever got from anyone ‘formally-trained’.

"Practical, easy steps I can take to heal, connect to myself and with others"

"I love how the videos and the workbook have given me practical, easy steps I can take to heal, connect to myself and with others, and thereby getting on with living my dreams! Thank you Anna! Your course has really helped me calm down, get grounded, centered and ready to walk through my life with courage, compassion and dignity!"

"I'm having easier relationships with my difficult family members"

"I came across your page about a month ago and couldn't be happier to have found you. After all the years, sub-par (albeit dear) therapists, reading and research, doctors, hours upon hours and days and weeks of trying my very best (something I'm sure many of us can relate to), exhaustion, setbacks and occasional milestones - I'm glad to have found someone I can relate to and feel understood by so strongly. Love your authenticity, clarity and depth."

Meet Your Instructor

Anna Runkle

"The Fairy"

Anna Runkle

Hi it's me, the Crappy Childhood Fairy. As you may know from my blog and YouTube channel, I'm not a doctor or therapist. I’m just someone who grew up affected by Childhood PTSD and the brain dysregulation that so often goes with it. For 25 years I’ve been teaching people my practical techniques and principles that anyone can use, whether or not they have access to professional help.