Take the course that's all about learning successful strategies for dating and relationships, just for people who experienced abuse and neglect in childhood.

  • Learn the basics about Childhood PTSD, ACEs, and the brain dysregulation that can impact emotions, perceptions and your chances of finding love.

  • Clarify what you really want in life and in a relationship, and the characteristics of your ideal partner.

  • Identify self-defeating behaviors that have hurt your relationships (and choice of partners) in the past.

  • Clear away obstacles to healthy relationships, including habits, attitudes and existing relationships that hold you back.

  • Revolutionize your dating strategy with Anna's "Structured Dating" program, which helps you get to know potential mates before forging an emotional bond: No more rushing in, or forging bonds with the wrong people.

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Course curriculum

  • 1

    Introduction

    • Video 1: Welcome to the Course

    • Dating Course Contents

    • Video 2: Introduction

    • Video 3: My Story
  • 2

    Part One: Get Your Baseline

    • Video 4: Define What You Want and Write it Down

    • Your Ideal Life

    • Your Ideal Partner

    • Video 5: Get your ACE Score

    • Take the ACE Survey

    • Video 6: Understand Dysregulation, the Root of Childhood PTSD

    • Exercise: Your Signs of Dysregulation

    • Checklist: Signs and Symptoms

    • Video 7: Ten Emergency Measures to Re-Regulate

    • Emergency Measures
  • 3

    Part Two: Make a Space for a Period of Change

    • Video 8: Overview of the Daily Practice

    • Overview: The Daily Practice

    • Video 9: How I Learned the Daily Practice

    • Video 10: How to Write Fears and Resentments

    • How to Write Fears and Resentments

    • Video 11: How to Meditate

    • How to Meditate

    • Daily Practice FAQs

    • Extra Video: If Writing Makes You Feel Worse...
  • 4

    Part Three: Identify Self-Defeating Behaviors

    • Video 12: Intro to Self-Defeating Behaviors

    • Self-Assessment: Identify Self-Defeating Behaviors

    • Video 13: We're Attracted to Unavailable/Inappropriate People

    • Self-Assessment: Attraction to Unavailable People

    • Video 14: We Get Triggered Around Intimacy

    • Self-Assessment: Triggered by Intimacy

    • Video 15: We Get Too Good at Fitting Ourselves to Crap

    • Self-Assessment: Fitting Ourselves to Crap

    • Video 16: We Have Trouble Seeing Our Own Role in Our Problems

    • Self-Assessment: Seeing Our Role

    • Video 17: We Have Trouble Being Alone, or Leaving

    • Self-Assessment: Trouble Being Alone
  • 5

    Part Four: Clear Away Obstacles

    • Video 18: Clear Away the Habits/Life Conditions Standing In Your Way

    • Self-Assessment: Personal Problems

    • Video 19: Clear Away Attitudes and Beliefs That Stop You

    • Self-Assessment: Attitudes and Beliefs

    • Video 20: End Relationships That Don't Fit

    • Self-Assessment: Relationships That Don't Fit

    • Video 21: How to Break Up with Someone You're Dating

    • How to Break Up
  • 6

    Part Five: Structured Dating

    • Video 22: Why We Need Structured Dating

    • Structured Dating Overview

    • Video 23: Going Slowly

    • Video 24: Making Dates

    • Video 25: Now that You're Dating

    • Video 26: How to Stay Regulated in a Relationship

    • Tips to Stay Regulated in a Relationship

    • Video 27: How to Know if This Person is the One to Marry

Who Belongs In This Course?

The course is appropriate for women and men of any age who want to change trauma-driven patterns, and take steps to form a healthy, committed relationship

  • Did you grow up with abuse, neglect, or exposure to parental violence, addiction or alcoholism?

  • Do you have a history of attraction to unavailable or inappropriate people?

  • Do you get triggered by intimacy, and worry old behaviors will sabotage good relationships?

  • Are you TOO good at fitting yourself to unacceptable people and situations?

  • Do you find it difficult to identfiy how you may be repeating negative patterns?

  • Do you stay in unhealthy relationships even when you know you should leave?

  • Do you long for a committed relatonship or marriage that's free of drama and full of love and security?

What others are saying...

This was a great course, both in content and form

"One difference I have already observed, is being less anxious in the presence of men and more authentic. I’ve started giving different endings to past stories in my mind. I can now understand what other choices I had in relation to my behavior and how differently things would have evolved if I had followed them."

"I'm so thankful!"

"I am blown away by how you continually provide exactly what I need at this point in my healing journey."

"This course has changed the way I see relationships."

"Anna’s information felt like advice and lessons a good mother would give to a daughter, to protect and prepare her for her future (love) life. Thank you Anna!"

"Very helpful!"

"I loved Anna's insight and teaching, very informative for my CPTSD brain. I have done a lot of things wrong in my search for love and connection but I now I know why!"

"Practical, easy steps I can take to heal, connect to myself and with others"

"I have tools in my toolbox now and will completely adopt “structured dating” to navigate my emotional landmines and achieve my goal of being able to have a healthy relationship. Thanks for your help and amazing course."

Meet Your Instructor

"The Fairy"

Anna Runkle

Anna Runkle is the creator of the beloved YouTube channel and blog, The Crappy Childhood Fairy. Since 2017 she has led online courses and weekly live calls with more than 200,000 students worldwide, teaching her radical approach to healing trauma. Her work is focused on calming dysregulation and other symptoms of childhood trauma, and changing self-defeating behaviors that are common among people who have lived dysregulated and traumatized for much of their lives. Anna's work is based on research, personal experience healing her own trauma, and 27 years of working directly with the men and women who seek to learn her methods. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.