Heal the Triggers That Keep You Isolated

Feeling alone and disconnected is common for people who grew up with abuse and neglect. Finally, this step-by-step program helps you BREAK YOUR ISOLATION, and create more trusting, authentic and happy relationships with the people in your life.

  • One video and one worksheet delivered each day for 30 days, to help you gradually build awareness and skills. With three hours of content.

  • Learn how abuse and neglect in childhood can injure your capacity to connect with loved ones and friends

  • Identify the triggers that cause you to panic or pull away, and learn practical strategies to calm them

  • Change destructive patterns like avoidance, clinging and controlling behaviors that push people away

  • Adopt Anna's practical strategies to navigate connection challenges and build easier, more fulfilling relationships

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About the Connection Bootcamp

Have you experienced these common signs that early trauma has affected your ability to connect?

  1. When you are in a group, do you struggle to feel that you are part of it?

  2. Do you find yourself avoiding social engagements, simply because it’s triggering to be around other people?

  3. Is it a pattern for you to sometimes say hurtful things to people, and regret it later?

  4. Do you stay in unhappy relationships just so you won’t have to be alone?

  5. Are your relationships more superficial than you’d like?

  6. When you sense that people have pulled away from you, are you often unsure why?

  7. Do you often feel empty and lonely -- even at a party, even in a romantic relationship?

  8. When you make a new friend, do you live in fear, or “wait for the other shoe to drop,” expecting them to to abandon you?

  9. Do you feel sometimes like other people got an “instruction manual” for how to live life, but you’ve had to figure things out for yourself?

  10. Are you haunted by a fear that will end up alone in the world?

If you struggle with connection and these symptoms are familiar to you, I invite you to register for this powerful course. 

Course Curriculum

  • 1

    Day 1: Welcome!

    • Day One: Welcome and Overview

    • Worksheet 1: Taking Stock, Your Vision

  • 2

    Day 2: The Problem of Isolation

    • Day Two: The Problem of Isolation

    • Worksheet 2: How Isolated Are You?

  • 3

    Day 3: Emotion and Action

    • Day Three: Emotion and Action

    • Worksheet 3: Grief and First Steps

  • 4

    Day 4: People Trigger You

    • Day Four: People Trigger You

    • Worksheet 4: Your People Triggers

  • 5

    Day 5: Calming Your Triggers

    • Day Five: Calming Your Triggers

    • Worksheet 5: The Daily Practice Techniques

  • 6

    Day 6: The People You WANT In Your Life

    • Day Six: The People You WANT in Your Life

    • Worksheet 6: The People You Want in Your Life

  • 7

    Day 7: Covert Avoidance

    • Day Seven: Covert Avoidance

    • Worksheet 7: Covert Avoidance

  • 8

    Day 8: Boundaries

    • Quick Check-In Video: Review Week One

    • Check-in Worksheet: Review Week One

    • Day Eight: Boundaries

    • Worksheet 8: Your Boundaries

  • 9

    Day 9: The Urge to Flee

    • Day Nine: The Urge to Flee

    • Worksheet 9: When You Have the Urge to Flee

  • 10

    Day 10: Abandonment

    • Day Ten: The Fear (or Feeling) of Abandonment

    • Worksheet 10: Abandonment

  • 11

    Day 11: Being Too Other-Focused

    • Day Eleven: Losing Yourself in Other People

    • Worksheet 11: Being Too "Other-Focused"

  • 12

    Day 12: When Loneliness "Leaks"

    • CB 12 Leaky Loneliness_2

    • Worksheet 12: When Loneliness Leaks

  • 13

    Day 13: Seeing Your Part in Problems

    • Day Thirteen: When You Can't See Your Own Role in Problems

    • Worksheet 13: How to See Your Own Role In Problems

  • 14

    Day 14: Are We Different Than Other People?

    • Day Fourteen: Do You Feel Different Than Others?

    • Worksheet 14: Feeling Different

  • 15

    Day 15: Feeling Like An Outsider in Groups

    • Day Fifteen: Feeling Like an Outsider in Groups

    • Worksheet 15: Experience of Groups

  • 16

    Day 16: Social Awkwardness

    • Quick Check-In Video: Review Week Two

    • Check-in Worksheet: Review Week Two

    • Day Sixteen: Are You Socially Awkward?

    • Worksheet 16: Social Awkwardness

  • 17

    Day 17: Not Feeling Heard

    • Day Seventeen: Do You Have Trouble Being Heard?

    • Worksheet 17: Why You Don't Feel Heard

  • 18

    Day 18: Anger and Dysregulation

    • Day Eighteen: Anger

    • Worksheet 18: Dysregulated Anger

  • 19

    Day 19: People Pleasing

    • Day Nineteen: People-Pleasing

    • Worksheet 19: The Problem with People-Pleasing

  • 20

    Day 20: Defendedness

    • Day Twenty: Are You Too Defended to Love?

    • Worksheet 20: Too Defended to Connect?

  • 21

    Day 21: The Urge to Control

    • Day Twenty-One: Do People Have to Honor Your Boundaries?

    • Worksheet 21: Asking for What You Want

  • 22

    Day 22: Punishing with Silence

    • Day Twenty Two: How NOT to Give The Silent Treatment

    • Worksheet 22: How to Keep Communication Open

  • 23

    Day 23: Your Red-Flag Detector

    • Quick Check-In Video: Review Week Three

    • Check-in Worksheet: Review Week Three

    • Day Twenty Three: Your Red Flag Detector is Broken

    • Worksheet 23: Detecting Red Flags

  • 24

    Day 24: Healing Your Ability to See Red Flags

    • Day Twenty Four: Heal Your Red Flag Detector

    • Worksheet 24: Healing Your Ability to See Red Flags

  • 25

    Day 25: Healing Shame

    • Day Twenty Five: Shame vs. Connection

    • Worksheet 25: Shame (complete while listening to Guided Relaxation audio file)

    • Guided Relaxation: Shame Exercise (audio only)

  • 26

    Day 26: Discouragers and Naysayers

    • Day Twenty Six: Disconnecting from People Who Discourage You

    • Worksheet 26: People Who Don't Want You to Heal

  • 27

    Day 27:Creating Boundaries for Challenging Situations

    • Day Twenty Seven: 10 Tips for Taking Care of Yourself Around Difficult People

    • Worksheet 27: 10 Tips for Holding Boundaries

  • 28

    Day 28: The People Who No Longer Fit

    • Day Twenty Eight: The People Who No Longer Fit

    • Worksheet 28: Who No Longer Fits?

  • 29

    Day 29: How to Be A Good Friend

    • Day Twenty Nine: Friendship Skills

    • Worksheet 29: How to Be a Better Friend

  • 30

    Day 30: Healing Apologies

    • Day Thirty: How to Make a Healing Apology

    • Worksheet 30: Healing Apologies

    • Day 30 Guided Relaxation: Use Connection to Bring GOOD Into the World

A 30-Day Online Course

Each day, one new video and one new worksheet open for you

Give yourself the gift of 30 days of learning; one new video and one new worksheet open for you in your course each day. Take them one-day-at a time, or let them accumulate and do them all at once. Plan on spending at least 20 minutes a day watching and writing (you can spend extra time if you like, or skip modules as needed.

Childhood PTSD is an injury, not an identity.

You can heal from the effects of past trauma on your present-day relationships


  • Can I take the course at my own pace?

    Each day's video and worksheet is released at the same time each day. If you miss several days, content from those days will be waiting for you when you return. After it's been delivered, any day's content can be revisited as many times as you like.

  • Is this course part of the Membership bundle?

    Yes! When you become a member, you can access all my courses, including this one. If you become a member, you'll have access to these courses as long as your membership is active.

  • What is the refund policy?

    If you are unsatisfied for any reason, request a refund within 72 hours of purchase and your tuition will be refunded.

Meet Your Instructor

"The Fairy"

Anna Runkle

Anna Runkle is the creator of the beloved YouTube channel and blog, The Crappy Childhood Fairy. Since 2017 she has led online courses and weekly live calls with more than 200,000 students worldwide, teaching her radical approach to healing trauma. Her work is focused on calming dysregulation and other symptoms of childhood trauma, and changing self-defeating behaviors that are common among people who have lived dysregulated and traumatized for much of their lives. Anna's work is based on research, personal experience healing her own trauma, and 27 years of working directly with the men and women who seek to learn her methods. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.